{"id":4313,"date":"2022-05-26T16:34:27","date_gmt":"2022-05-26T20:34:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/?page_id=4313"},"modified":"2025-03-18T12:36:08","modified_gmt":"2025-03-18T16:36:08","slug":"resilience-in-times-of-stress","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/resilience-in-times-of-stress\/","title":{"rendered":"Resilience in Times of Stress"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-4316\" src=\"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999.jpg\" alt=\"three teenagers with their arms around one another looking out to the ocean\" width=\"400\" height=\"267\" srcset=\"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999-105x70.jpg 105w, https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999-317x211.jpg 317w, https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999-423x282.jpg 423w, https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999-634x423.jpg 634w, https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999-846x564.jpg 846w, https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/parenting\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/20\/2022\/05\/family-youth-resilience-three-teenagers-facing-ocean-pixabay-4494999-951x634.jpg 951w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 320px) 85vw, (max-width: 768px) 67vw, (max-width: 1024px) 62vw,400px\" \/>Violent events like mass shootings can be triggering on many levels. There are good resources available on how to cope when you are feeling trauma-related fear and anxiety about recent shootings, and understanding more about the impact of adverse and positive childhood experiences.\n<h4><strong>Great Pointers For Talking to Children<\/strong><\/h4>\n<strong>University of Maine Cooperative Extension Publications:<\/strong>\n\nThe following bulletins are included on the <a href=\"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/publications\/home\/home-family-and-youth\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Home, Family and Youth page<\/a> of UMaine Extension&#8217;s Publications site. A downloadable PDF, or option to print directly from the page, is available with each bulletin.\n<ul>\n \t<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/publications\/4077e\/\">Bulletin #4077, Winning Ways to Talk with Young Children<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n \t<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/publications\/4425e\/\">Bulletin #4425, Preventing Violence, Creating Peace<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n \t<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/publications\/4429e\/\">Bulletin #4429, Youth and Stress<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n \t<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/extension.umaine.edu\/publications\/8048e\/\">Bulletin #8048, Play and the School-Age Child<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n<style>.kb-row-layout-id4313_dad44d-90 > .kt-row-column-wrap{align-content:start;}:where(.kb-row-layout-id4313_dad44d-90 > .kt-row-column-wrap) > .wp-block-kadence-column{justify-content:start;}.kb-row-layout-id4313_dad44d-90 > .kt-row-column-wrap{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);row-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);padding-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);padding-bottom:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 2fr) minmax(0, 1fr);}.kb-row-layout-id4313_dad44d-90 > .kt-row-layout-overlay{opacity:0.30;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kb-row-layout-id4313_dad44d-90 > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 2fr) minmax(0, 1fr);}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kb-row-layout-id4313_dad44d-90 > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}}<\/style><div class=\"kb-row-layout-wrap kb-row-layout-id4313_dad44d-90 alignnone wp-block-kadence-rowlayout\"><div class=\"kt-row-column-wrap kt-has-2-columns kt-row-layout-left-golden kt-tab-layout-inherit kt-mobile-layout-row kt-row-valign-top\">\n<style>.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84 > .kt-inside-inner-col,.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{border-top-left-radius:0px;border-top-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-left-radius:0px;}.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84 > .kt-inside-inner-col{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-sm, 1rem);}.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;}.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84 > .kt-inside-inner-col > .aligncenter{width:100%;}.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{opacity:0.3;}.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84{position:relative;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-column kadence-column4313_bee4f4-84\"><div class=\"kt-inside-inner-col\">\n<strong>Additional Resources:<\/strong>\n<ul>\n \t<li><a href=\"https:\/\/acestoohigh.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>ACEs Too High News<\/strong> (ACEs=Adverse Childhood Experiences)<\/a>\n<ul>\n \t<li><a href=\"https:\/\/acestoohigh.com\/2022\/05\/18\/to-prevent-mass-shootings-dont-bother-with-motive-do-a-forensic-aces-investigation\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>To prevent mass shootings, don\u2019t bother with motive; do a forensic ACEs investigation<\/strong> (ACEs Too High News)<\/a>, May 18, 2022, By Jane Ellen Stevens.<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Follow on Facebook:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/ACEsTooHigh\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">ACEsTooHigh<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n \t<li><a href=\"https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/anxiety-school-shooting\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>How to Talk to Kids About School Shootings<\/strong> (Child Mind Institute)<\/a><\/li>\n \t<li><a href=\"https:\/\/youth.gov\/feature-article\/resources-helping-youth-cope-after-mass-shooting\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Resources for Helping Youth Cope after a Mass Shooting<\/strong> (Youth.gov)<\/a> \u2014 Many resources on this listing are available in Spanish and other languages.<\/li>\n \t<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nasponline.org\/resources-and-publications\/resources-and-podcasts\/school-safety-and-crisis\/school-violence-resources\/talking-to-children-about-violence-tips-for-parents-and-teachers\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and Teachers<\/strong> (National Association of School Psychologists, NASP) <\/a>&#8211; a downloadable print version of this list is available on this site as well.<\/li>\n \t<li><a href=\"https:\/\/extension.umn.edu\/building-youth-resilience\/talking-youth-about-violence\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Talking to youth about violence<\/strong> (University of Minnesota Extension)<\/a><\/li>\n \t<li><a href=\"https:\/\/everytownsupportfund.org\/everytown-survivor-network\/resources-for-victims-and-survivors-of-gun-violence\/trauma-and-gun-violence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Trauma and Gun Violence<\/strong> (Everytown for Gun Safety Support Fund)<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><strong>Leaning on Others in Times of Great Stress is Important<\/strong><\/h4>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Stay connected, reach out. Don&#8217;t isolate yourself from the pain you may be experiencing. If you reach out, others will listen. A friend, colleague, or hotline.\u00a0<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/maineresilience.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Maine Resilience Building Network<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"> has a <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/maineresilience.org\/Mattering-Resources\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Mattering Resources initiative<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"> currently in action that speaks to the importance of mattering. In times of stress and trauma, knowing that you matter makes a difference in feeling connected and can ease feelings of isolation.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<table style=\"height: 0px;border-color: #003263\" border=\"3\" width=\"0\" cellspacing=\"15\" cellpadding=\"15\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<h4><strong>Hotlines:<\/strong><\/h4>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/strengthenme.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Strengthen ME<\/a> Hotline:<\/strong> For statewide assistance, call <strong>207.221.8198<\/strong>, 8:00 a.m.-8:00 p.m.,\nseven days a week.<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li>List of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.maine.gov\/dhhs\/about\/contact\/hotlines\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Hotlines \/ Crisis Numbers<\/strong> (State of Maine Department of Health and Human Services)<\/a>.\nPlease note that some numbers provided are available 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